Wednesday, April 25, 2012

what's in a name?

Up 'til now, my favorite part of pregnancy and birth has been naming our babies.  Adrian & I have had varying degrees of difficulty agreeing each pregnancy.  With Ella, we were ready with a first and middle for boy or girl.  We did not have a boy name ready for Tessa Jane.  At all.  And were relieved when she was a girl!  :)  We talked about Jaci's name for a day or so after she was born.  Then it took me about 2 years to quit regretting that we didn't use "Josie" instead.  Aaron's middle name was the only part that we had to settle after his birth.  With all of them, I was anxious to be settled with a name weeks, even months before they were born.  Each time, Adrian was less in a hurry.  We have never publicly shared our name considerations in advance; not wanting the opinions to flood in before we decide without external bias.  Here, I won't share any of the names currently up for grabs; only those that have gone by the wayside.

For the first time, this time, the search for baby's name has been less pleasant to me.  Maybe it's because we've had so many other things on our minds and schedules lately.  Or the fact that we have not nearly been in agreement.  This time, I decided to wait to let Adrian bring it up, instead of pestering him to think about it, as in the past.  This is also the first time that Adrian and I know the gender of the baby, so we can focus in on one set of names.  (Ironically, we agreed on a name for the other gender long ago.  But for the gender we have ~ not so much).  For the last 3 pregnancies, I have loved the name "Soraya" for a girl.  Upon suggesting it this time, Adrian said it sounded like some sort of disease ~ and I realized it does sound quite a bit like "psoriasis".  I didn't connect that at all previously.  So even with all my frustration at disagreement, it IS a good thing our children have 2 parents to balance one another out!  :)

I remember when I was pregnant with Tessa and we were feverishly trying to agree on a name, our tastes initially were so far off from one another.  Not just disagreement, it was disbelief!!  I was stuck on J names that time around, including Jhett, Jess or Jadrian for boys.  Even though I stuck with them, he laughed and wouldn't even give those names a second thought.  He made serious suggestions like Veronica and Saul, to which I said, "Are you completely looney?!"  Funny how strong opinions can be.

I guess I have more faith this time around.  I simply decided that God would give us a name, and I didn't have to feel ready or in control of the naming process so far in advance.  Just in the last month or so Adrian has brought up his preferences.  I have gagged, and rebutted with mine.  He has sputtered and laughed.  We have our separate lists on the iPhone.  (Which, if you saw, would include both genders so as not to give it away).  Ella found the lists one day and made her own darling list of suggestions!!  Some of which I would consider, by the way!  This time, there is no overlapping on our lists.  They range from very traditional/Biblical to very contemporary.  How does a couple compromise on a name, when each parent has strong feelings and they don't collide?   

I have teased Adrian that it really doesn't matter what we name the child, because he will inevitably call it by some outlandish nickname anyway!!  All of the kids have had their nicknames, none of which could possibly have been predicted before they were named.  Some nicknames have evolved with age; some have stuck.  Ella is Ella Rosen Thorpus Porpoise P; ERTPP for short.  (She doesn't want anybody to know what the last letter stands for, and reminds daddy this every time he uses it).  Tessa is Teej, Teej pooj, or Esselie Tesselie Jane.  Jaci has become J-L-B-N-T-Z-R-Q-M-O-W.  Doesn't stand for anything, but over time Jace Base the Space Case got shortened to "JB", which again got longer, and that's simply what daddy calls her.  Aaron has been the mispronnounced Ry-O lately, much to my chagrin. Or "Cook", which came from Tessa's, "Aaron Buddy Doodie Cookie Mommie".  When in disagreement over baby #5's name, I tell Adrian he is obviously the mastermind at nicknames, so therefore I can be the real name chooser!  :)

I recently read that one person had kind of a noble name in mind for their baby.  They were told to go to the back door and yell the name about a dozen times to try it out.  After that, they settled for something much more practical!  I like that.

Sunday, an all new name came to Adrian.  It is one I would consider, but am taking time to get used to.  Last night, an all new name came to me.  It is one he would consider, with the same hesitation.  

So maybe, just maybe this baby will be named something different than either Adrian or I have imagined for the last 6 months.  Maybe the baby will just "look like" one of our names.  I'm amazingly at peace with it.  

And very soon, you'll know baby's name too!  :)  Still hoping for an April baby...

Sunday, April 22, 2012

39 weeks.

While they were only four...
With Daddy
With Mommy


He'll be a big brother in a few days...

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Friday the 13th

Tonight just before bed, somebody mentioned that it was Friday the 13th.  I honestly didn't realize that until they said so.  But today, just like every other Friday the 13th I've taken note of since middle school, was an exceptional day!  Our house had its first showing at 10 a.m.  I woke up at 5 a.m. (can't say that part was exceptional), drug out of bed at 5:45, and began some extras to get the house ready.  The kids followed me out of bed early, so we actually had some time to kill before we had to leave the house.  It was a sunny day here, but only 23 degrees in the morning.  We went to the library.  The kids and I had a great time ~ the girls loved using the childrens' computers they have set up there, and Aaron enjoyed blocks, puzzles and picture books.  They were all quiet and mannerly; it was truly pleasurable.  After that, the sunshine was so nice, I was inspired to clean our car out.  The van really suffers in winter time because I don't ever want to vacuum in freezing temperatures.  It has only been about 2 months since its last vacuuming, but I do believe there were enough crumbs to feed our family for a week if we found ourselves in dire straits. I took the kids and their bikes to the large lot that has coin op vacuums, and they frolicked in the sunshine while I removed the crumbs.  And trash.  And clutter.  And made note that all of the car seats need a deep clean too!  I swung through McD's to grab quick "food", and we ate a picnic lunch in our back yard.  Soon after, it was naptime for Aaron, and he easily fell asleep in my lap while I checked emails and called appraisers.  I got to lay down with him.  After nap, we went to play outdoors with 2 of our favorite Anaconda families ~ and I tried not to think that it might be the last time.  When we moved here not so long ago, we three moms had 3 toddlers and 1 baby among us.  Now our kids combined number 13!!  When playtime was over, it was time to return home to anticipate Daddy's arrival.  Adrian pulled in right behind us; it was a very happy reunion because we hadn't seen him since Monday.  We then had another family over for dinner of pizza, salad and breadsticks, with fudgy brownies & Tillamook ice cream for dessert.  We had awesome fellowship, encouraging one another to focus on Jesus even when life's circumstances aren't so great.  As they were leaving, the date was mentioned and I had to marvel again at what a gracious God we have.  It seems that He has given me extra special Friday the 13ths for years on end, just so that I would flee superstition and believe Him.  I do Lord, I do!

Now it's midnight and though exhausted, I cannot sleep.  I'm hoping this miserable symptom signifies the end of pregnancy.  Adrian says he would be happy if we had the baby tomorrow.  Well, I have plans for tomorrow, but truly would like to be done soon!  We'll see what baby and his/her Creator have in mind.  :)


Wednesday, April 11, 2012

For Sale!

We've received 2 Comparative Market Analyses, spoken with the relocation company, gotten direction from the home buyout program person, talked more with the bankers, got the electrical panel inspected, reviewed inspection reports, and signed on the repairs to be done to the Kalispell home.  I've cleaned up the effects of flu symptoms, had sleepless nights, and tried to keep ahead of the kids and their trails (though I never win).  I've washed baby clothes, blankets, burp cloths, baby car seat, removed "extras" to storage, and will continue to stash away clutter that we won't need before the move.

Today our little home went on the market.  We have hoped for the last 6 years that all the updates and improvements we did would be appealing to someone out there.  Now that it's free to look at, we really hope so!  And I do sincerely hope that the neighbors' music and dogs won't be making too much noise at the time that somebody looks!  We are extremely blessed that in this downturned market, we were still able to list higher than we bought for.

After 30 days on the market, the company will give us a buyout offer, which we can then compare to other interest or offers on the place.

But between now and then, I will be packing myself and the kids to live in Missoula while we wait for the baby.  Adrian will be working out of town.  We will welcome our 5th baby.  Then, one day at a time, we will know what to do from there!

Sunday, April 1, 2012

house photos

So many have asked for description of the house/photos.  Now that the contract is official, here is the description & a bunch off the realtor's website:

GORGEOUS VIEWS from this newer (built 2002) 5160 sq.ft. home on 6.24 horse-friendly acres. 5 bedrooms, 3.5 baths. End of cul-de-sac just 4 paved miles west of Kalispell. Library, 10' ceilings, granite, stainless steel appliances, tile, large kitchen pantry, 2 gas fireplaces, main-floor master, large redwood deck, upstairs & main baths with double sink vanities, large unfinished room above garage.